Each post will be different, and perhaps unconventional, reflecting my values and those of my work. Let’s call it a pick ‘n’ mix without the calories. (Flashback to the Woolworths days anyone?)
Wear for Wellbeing
When we wear an outfit that's comfortable, both in materials and who we are, we are bound to feel good. Below are some ideas.
I don't know about you but I've definitely reached an age where it's comfort over fashion. Not that I ever really followed fashion before. I've recently ditched full on jeans in favour of j/leggings that don't dig into me constantly. Do your clothes fit you properly? Are your shoes going to last the day and support your feet?
Since I was a teenager, I've had slogan tops and pictures on my clothing that reflect 'me'. Now they are effective work wear too, with words like 'welcome every day with positive energy and vibes.' Perhaps a certain t-shirt makes you laugh or evokes a lovely memory. What do your socks say about you? Do you know which colours suit you best?
Speaking of colours, Autumn is my favourite season for this reason. So many vibrant shades outside. We can feel at one with nature by reflecting them. My orange skirt (pictured) was bought from a charity shop and doubles up as a Halloween outfit. Result!
We're coming into the colder months and energy prices continue to rise. Out come the hats, scarves, gloves and huge woolly jumpers. An ex colleague introduced me to Primark's super cosy tights over a decade ago. They are incredible. Not only do they last longer than the average pair of tights but they're fleece-lined! If you're a lizard like me - I hope you'll instantly feel happier when you're warmer.
Do you enjoy fancy dress parties at this time of year, or any time of year? Getting creative with a character can take us out of our heads for a bit. Even better if we make our own costumes. It's heaps of fun and we focus on the task at hand.
Unseen or seen underwear
I say no more...
Not just clothes
There are so many other things we can wear to boost our feel good factor. Decorative items and colours in our hair, jewellery, make up (especially if it makes skin feel good too), nail varnish. etc. There are also the scents we carry around with us - i.e perfume or essential oils. (Yes I snuck them in.)
Of course, the best thing we can wear to make us feel good is A SMILE.Thursday 6th October, 2:24pm
Uplifting Poem: Kindness (by Nikita Gill)
I stumbled across this lovely poem earlier this week and wanted to share it. It feels so relevant right now, and pretty much any time really!
I believe we can learn kindness quickly in adverse conditions. Isn't it better to give our love and time to others rather than feel helpless or lost in our own negative thoughts? It can really boost our sense of wellbeing to connect to others in a positive way.
There's so much going on in the world right now. Our common humanity, for the majority of us, is something we can cling on to. At least we still have that. Hardships often make us realise what's important in life. In this way we can put our grievances aside. They say 'a problem shared is a problem halved,' which resonates with me. We are always stronger together.
I'm probably repeating myself a bit here from a recent post on tribes. Personally, I can't emphasise the importance of kindness enough. Plus our brains love repetition! :-)Thursday 29th September, 3:51pm
How we remember them
As UK residents and many others around the world mourn our Queen this week, it makes me want to explore how we commemorate someone we've lost in general.
Of course, a lot will depend on what the person meant to us and others. We might look through items they once owned and keep them close (both the items and the person!) In planning a funeral or celebration of their life, we think about their favourite songs or hymns. I remember my Gran insisting we played David Essex's 'A Winter's Tale' to see her out, no matter what time of year it was. Some form of eulogy often reveals things we didn't know. A reminder of special sayings or mannerisms. We might scatter ashes in a beloved location or make sure a final resting place is with significant others. One thing we've done for centuries and across cultures is lay flowers. It's been very moving seeing pictures of all the beautiful bouquets decorating London and Windsor over the last fortnight.
Collective grief brings people closer together. Such public events to honour the Queen have had a lovely way of improving connection in what can be a very disconnected world. We can share stories and silence in reflection. But we can also have our own private time for tribute, visiting a grave or lighting a candle.
There are so many other ways and even if I knew them all, I couldn't possibly list here. There's also no set instructions on how to remember someone. It's so important we do it in the way that feels right for us.Thursday 22nd September, 5:23pm
Although we don't live in tribes in the same way as we used to in the cave man days, they are still vital for our wellbeing. That sense of connection and community is very much needed to release our happy chemicals. Something we may have been deprived of during the pandemic.
A tribe can mean something different to everyone and we can have many. It might be our family, a group of friends, colleagues, or people we share similar interests with. I'm lucky to belong to several tribes, and some are very small, only appear once a month (writers group), or year (Swanwick). Others have been there on and off my whole life (friends and family.)
I was reminded today when I visited old friends/colleagues after a networking event in the town I used to work. We can drift in and out of touch with people as we move on, into different life stages but the bond is still there. It doesn't mean we no longer have an alliance with them. I found myself reverting back to the collective 'we' on many occasions - us against the world.
I loved the TV series from New Zealand as a teenager (pictured above). The children form their own tribes when a virus wipes out all the adults. (Not so science fiction/ post apocalyptic now!) They dressed up in vibrant outfits and decorated themselves in wonderful forms of self expression. Most importantly, like any good show, it was about the relationships between the characters and how they found a sense of purpose and belonging in an uncertain world. That to me is a powerful message both then and now, and any time really. It's together we can make it through the tough times.
You might like to think about the tribes you have in your life, or the ones you'd like to have. How do they help you?Thursday 15th September, 6:24pm
These simple and cheap tension relievers are honestly so underrated and this is why:
It's all about the senses
You can take them with you
It's a mini workout/good for our wellbeing
We have someone called Patrick Hummel to thank for the stress ball, as he brought them to life in central Indiana in the mid-1980s. Thank you Patrick!Thursday 8th September, 5:55pm